The mind. It’s where the battle begins and ends. It’s where we choose to believe the truth of God’s Word or we choose to believe the lies of the world, the lies of the enemy and even the lies of our own hearts.

It’s so easy to feel like we want the battle to be over once and for all. But winning the war over our thought life is a process, not an event.

Struggling with our own thoughts is one of the biggest hindrances we face when it comes to gaining ground on our God-given destiny. Sometimes, it’s because we only implement a partial plan to defeat those fiery darts and wayward thoughts that leave us wounded and wondering how we will ever win the battle that rages in our hearts.

How will we ever stop thinking we are less than, inadequate, unloveable, and unworthy? How can we escape the shackles of depression and oppression when our very thoughts not only take us there, but the keep us there?

Filtering our thoughts through the Word of God helps us to distinguish what is true and what is a lie. It’s how we begin taking our thoughts captive and it is an imperative part of winning the war – removing what isn’t true and intentionally replacing those thoughts with irreplaceable truths.

If not, we leave those places open for more fiery darts and more wayward thoughts.

I’m reminded of how a deep wound must be packed in order for healing to take place. You can remove what caused the wound but if you don’t replace it by packing it with sterile bandages and cleansing ointment, infection is inevitable.

In much the same way, we must replace thoughts that wound our hearts and threaten to infect our future with the cleansing ointment of the Word of God.

But is it really possible to control the wandering thoughts that wonder through our minds?

Absolutely! A preacher once told me if the Lord called me to it, He’d see me through it. He doesn’t call us to do that which He doesn’t enable us to do. So, if the Lord calls us to take our thoughts captive, to guard our hearts and minds – He will enable us to do just that.

You see, it’s not only important for you to know, but it’s important that you’re able to teach your children how to win the war of the mind too!

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One of the ways we replace wayward thoughts is by replacing them with what Philippians 4 describes as a “Whatever” list.

“Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things. The things which you learned and received and heard and saw in me, these do, and the God of peace will be with you.”

So, get your pen out and start now. Make your “Whatever” list and fill it with everything that makes your heart smile  – all the things that fall in line with the Philippians 4:8-9 criteria of whatever topics.

That’s how you replace wayward thoughts with the irreplaceable truths of God’s Word. That’s how you begin winning the war in your mind. That’s how you walk in victory and step into your God-given destiny and become who God created you to be.

Have you ever struggled with your thought life? What are some things that you can place on your “Whatever List” that will help you take control of your thought life? What are some ways you can help your child win the war of his/her mind today?


tyStephanie Shott is a speaker, author, and founder of The M.O.M. Initiative. But before all that, she was the product of an unwanted pregnancy, a sexual abuse victim, and a divorcee at only 19. Her story has been one that God intertwined to bless the hearts of thousands across the country and her heart for single moms is apparent. She makes her home in Jacksonville, Florida. For more information, visit


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