Ecclesiastes 3:1,4 (NIV) There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens: a time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance. A time to have fun.

Since there was a re-make, I won’t have to give away my age, but when I was in high school, Footloose was one of my favorite movies and the Bible verse I mentioned above was one of my favorite lines from it. As a single mom, you may sometimes find it hard to make time to have a little fun, and if you do have time, you still have to figure out how you are going to pay for it. I find myself often reminding others that even God rested on the 7th day, not because our most awesome God needed rest, but instead, to set the example for us to follow. Work, work, work and sacrifice, sacrifice, sacrifice are great traits but they can’t be sustained forever because you will eventually feel resentful, not being able to maintain that same initial drive, or just burn out altogether.

We all need to recharge our batteries from time to time which helps us to be a better parent, friend, co-worker, and steward. I want to share with you one way you can recharge in VIP fashion without paying VIP prices, by hosting a spa party:

  1. No kids allowed.
    • If possible, ask a friend or family member because free daycare is FREE! An alternative to friends or family is either free or low-cost daycare at your local church. Some churches offer free daycare for other services such as volunteering at various church functions or programs. We all need mental health days so even if a spa party is not your cup of soup, it may still be nice to take advantage of this just to hang out with a bunch of your friends without having to entertain the kids.
  2. Invite your peeps.
    • After you have arranged your child care, it is time to select who will be attending and where you are going to host the event. Consider keeping it small, maybe around 3-6 people. Once you know who you want to invite, you can use a free invite service like or (with whom I have no affiliation).

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  3. Decide what you are offering.
    • Select the stations you want to offer. For example hair and makeup, manicure and pedicure, facials, and possibly massages. Keep in mind the more options you want to enjoy yourself, the more you have to do! At the same time you are deciding which stations to offer, keep in mind the layout. For example, you want to have a changing room. It can be one room that everyone shares and you can separate the changing stations by using sheets.
  4. Equipment and gear.
    • Music: choose your genre, either classical or elevator. You can use a computer and a free music streaming service or just an old fashioned radio.
    • Candles: either ask your friends who are attending or possibly visit your local Dollar Tree to buy some scented pillar candles on the cheap.
    • Herbal neck wraps: assemble a few neck wraps by using CLEAN tube socks and fill them with rice and rosemary springs. After that, you just need to heat them in the microwave for two to three minutes. You may want to test the temperature first, before putting steaming hot tube socks around your friend’s neck!
    • Manicure and pedicure station: For your manicure station, you need two bowls of water. One will be for warm water with a few drops of dish soap. Stay away from anything with bleach or sanitizers. The second bowl will have cool water to rinse your hands. For your pedicure station, you will need to fill a large bowl with warm water to which you’ll add some Epsom salt. (Everything I mentioned here can be purchased at your local dollar store.)
    • Hair station: If you want to make things fancy, you can make an egg shampoo (2 eggs, 2 tablespoons of lemon juice, a tablespoon of honey and a few drops of olive oil). Massage the mixture into the hair, wrap with a towel, leave on for 5 to 10 minutes and then wash it out thoroughly with warm water. After that, just dry and style!
    • Other stations: Again, you can offer massages, facials, nail painting, etc…It is up to you on how much effort and creativity you want to put in this.
    • Drinks and snacks or optional but most enjoyable! Serve flavored water by adding slices of lemon, orange or even cucumber. If you want to keep things a little healthy, put together some snack trays with broccoli, carrots, celery, fruits, and cheese.
  5. It sound too much like work!
    • Honestly, I got tired myself just thinking about all of that work, so if you are like me, but still want to get pampered without having to pay the big bucks at a salon or spa, the next best thing would be to visit the local beauty college or possibly a spa training school in your area so you can get your relax on, and it won’t have to cost you an arm and a leg!



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Steve Repak, CFP® is a Financial Literacy Speaker, Army veteran, and author of 6 Week Money Challenge: For Your Personal Finances (January 2016) and Dollars & Uncommon Sense: Basic Training For Your Money (January 2012).  Steve has helped many people turn their finances around with his inspiring financial literacy presentations and one-on-one financial coaching.For more information about Steve, his books or if you would like him to speak at your or next event visit




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