The Single Mom and Solitude: A Blessing in Disguise by Gail Showalter

 There is a big difference between being alone and being lonely. How do you handle being alone? Do you embrace solitude? Can you accept time alone as an opportunity for growth?

Alone or Lonely?

The difference between solitude and loneliness is deep and wide. A day alone need not cause loneliness. It can be an opportunity for transforming your life, a time to listen to the Friend within. When you are alone it may seem as if even God has forsaken you. We fail to realize, as Oswald Chambers put it, “God will keep narrowing us in until He gets us alone.” In those times He reveals to us why He needs our attention. If we want to truly hear Him, we must be quiet and still. “Be still and know that I am God.” Then He will reveal Himself. Once you learn to embrace solitude your spiritual life will grow by leaps and bounds.


There are some gems in your life that can only be polished when you are alone. I’ve spent many days in solitude, some by choice—others not. Either way I learned more, stretched more, grew more during those times. Aloneness need not be lonely. It can be a time for great change and insight into your life.


            Search out the Spirit. Allow your soul to be fertile ground for the seeds of spiritual growth. Growth is what life is about. If you haven’t noticed look at your children. Their physical growth is a constant. Aren’t you always buying new shoes and jeans?  Of course, I’m speaking of spiritual growth here. As adult Christians we should ask ourselves how have we grown lately? Am I the same person I was a year ago? What have I learned? How would others say I was different?

Hearing God

Oswald Chambers also said, “When God gets us alone by affliction, heartbreak, or temptation, by disappointment, sickness, or by thwarted affection, by a broken friendship, or by a new friendship-when He gets us absolutely alone, and we are dumbfounded, and cannot ask one question, then He begins to expound.” It is the perfect time to hear God speak to your situation. Being alone can be an opportunity to reach out to new experiences. Don’t you want to see God working powerfully in your life? Spend some time alone.

And remember. . .

“God never put anyone in a place too small to grow.” Henrietta Mears

2018-06-11T15:17:53+00:00 March 19th, 2013|Gail Showalter, Help For Single Moms|2 Comments


  1. Danae Brewster June 27, 2013 at 4:50 am - Reply

    Hello, I read your new stuff daily. Your humoristic style
    is awesome, keep doing what you’re doing!

  2. Michele July 14, 2013 at 7:25 pm - Reply

    This post is so wonderful and true! God has gotten truly alone and seeking him over the past year and I have so much internal spiritual growth. Now it is time to share…I am looking at this site because He is calling me to lead a single parents ministry in my church. I am very excited as a 23 year single parent myself. I have been with my church 10 years and we have never had this type of ministry and I have felt very alone and disconnected from my church lately but out of that God is bringing forth change. 🙂

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