The lie from the enemy of your soul is that you can’t go on as a single mom. Maybe he tells you that no one truly cares about you or your pain. Maybe he tells you that no one wants you around. As you battle the challenges that are often faced by single mothers, confusion can rise up. The lies become believable. The sense of wondering if you can go on or how to make decisions as a mom, alone, can seem too hard. That’s why we want to offer some help if you are currently struggling to find clarity in your life. If you are currently wondering if there is more to life or struggling to find fulfillment in the day-to-day, then read on. God is not the author of confusion, and we stand with you to find clarity in your life, as you seek Him. Here are a few things to remember:
- Romans 11:29 “For God’s gifts and his call can never be withdrawn.” If God called you, He didn’t change His mind. Whatever He told you to do before (as a young child, a few years ago, as a younger adult, or maybe as a new mom) is still the
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assignment until you get a new assignment. You haven’t strayed too far from God’s love or His call. He hasn’t forgotten about you. He can still use you, despite your past, or even current circumstances, so cling to the knowledge of what He’s already told you to do. Remember the gifts you used more frequently in the past, and do those things again. Those are the things He’s created for you to do. Maybe you are a fantastic artist or cook or singer or storyteller….use those things! They are still part of your calling, even if you are a single mom!
Struggling to Hear God’s Call
So, what happens if you’ve never heard God’s instruction, or maybe you’re just not sure if you ever truly heard from God?
- This is where confusion comes in. We sometimes struggle to know God’s will or to be certain if He is truly the one that told us to do this or that, so listen to what Romans 12:2 says. “Don’t copy the behavior and customs of the world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then, you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good, pleasing, and perfect.” In order to know God’s will, we must not copy the behaviors of this world. What are you doing that looks like everyone around you, but doesn’t look like God? What are you doing to live a life that is set apart from the world? You must learn to let God transform you into a new person. God begins to speak to those who are willing to listen. He whispers a thought, a direction, into your spirit, and it moves you to action. We can begin to hear when we get quiet, shut out the noise of our world, and truly seek Him. What is God doing to transform you right now?
- Walk in your gifting. Clarity comes when we do what we are created to do. Peace comes. The reason we struggle to feel truly fulfilled is because we aren’t walking in our gifting. Check this out. “In his grace, God has given us different gifts for doing certain things well. So if God has given you the ability to prophesy, speak out with as much faith as God has given you. If your gift is serving others, serve them well. If you are a teacher, teach well. If your gift is to encourage others, be encouraging. If it is giving, give generously. If God has given you leadership ability, take the responsibility seriously. And if you have a gift for showing kindness, do it gladly”. Romans 12: 6-8 What has God gifted you to do? How can you change the world around you using those gifts? A sense of purpose, clarity, and fulfillment comes when we walk out our giftings.
- Keep praying and be patient. Romans 12:12 says, “Rejoice in our confident hope. Be patient in trouble, and keep on praying.” When hardships come, and they will, we remain patient that God is in control. We don’t’ have to question if He’s at work or whether He has forgotten about us. He’s faithful.
- Look around to see who you can help. Romans 12:13 says, “When God’s people are in need, be ready to help them. Always be eager to practice hospitality.” My aunt is in her 80s and is losing her mind. She is one of the dearest Christian women I’ve ever known. She is one of my best friends and has been my mother. She was diagnosed with cancer twice and felt her life was over. She was always baking cakes for Sunday school class members, teaching Sunday school, knitting a blanket, but now she’s gotten too frail. But then….someone called with her internet service about something, and she prayed for them. She helped someone. She can pray. She can talk and encourage.
The Life of a Single Mom is a national, faith-based, nonprofit that exists to see that no single mom walks alone. To date, the organization has worked with hundreds of churches to start a single mom’s support group in cities throughout the U.S. and beyond, as well as having served hundreds of thousands of single mothers with a variety of programs. Offering a large array of books, curriculum, training materials, online instructional videos, podcasts, newsletters, life skills education, and more, TLSM is one of the largest single mom organizations in the U.S. The robust selection of single mom programs focus on empowering single moms to grow spiritually, emotionally, financially, and parentally through Single Mom University, Single Moms Across America, the National TLSM Single Moms Conference, boot camps, and a variety of other programs. For more information, visit www.thelifeofasinglemom.com.
