Recently, Mike Haman, executive pastor of Healing Place Church in Baton Rouge, Louisiana taught a family series for his congregants.  One of those messages was specifically for those who are single.  It was too good not to share with all of you. His points were as follows:


  1. Trust God and rest. You are not insignificant about singleness. God has things He wants you to accomplish in this season, just like in every other season. You can’t have enough “Jesus” for both of you. God didn’t send you to save this new mate, so be sure you are trusting God and hearing from the Holy Spirit. If you need anything more than Jesus to make you happy, Satan will leverage it against you.


  1. Hold to God’s standard. If he doesn’t honor God as a single man, he’ll break your heart as a married man. It’s better to remain single and lonely, than to be lonely in a marriage. Don’t step outside of God’s promise. Learn to say, “I don’t” before you say, “I do.” Use God’s word as a standard for any future mate.


  1. Observe his character. If he’s always up and down emotionally, and you don’t know what to expect, it will likely never change. You need Steady Eddie not Sexy Steve. If there are things that aren’t consistent in his character, this is a concern. Your future husband isn’t random, it’s Kingdom. Take the time to observe his behavior with his parents and family, co-workers, strangers, and friends. Does he honor authority? Does he attend worship service regularly? Is he engaged in service in the community? Does he hold down a job? Does he exhibit the qualities you may want your future children to one day have?


  1. Keep walking and worshipping, while God is working. Wait well. Waiting can be the hardest part. Don’t be distracted from serving and loving the King during a ‘waiting’ season in your life. God orchestrates, we manipulate. We can’t make it happen, and God won’t bless it, if we attempt to try.


Mike Haman is the executive pastor of Healing Place Church in Baton Rouge, Louisiana. Originally from Missouri, Pastor Haman has been serving in ministry for more than 20 years.  His most passionate calling is to be father to his three children and husband to his wife, Rachel. He is currently an instructor in Single Mom University powered by The Life of a Single Mom.


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