Rowing in Rough Waters by Sandra Aldrich

How’s your day going? Oh, wait. You’re a single mother. I know how it’s going. You’re dealing with too much stress, too little time, and too little money. And I bet folks are commenting on your mistakes—real or otherwise—as they offer unsolicited advice.

How do I know? Because years ago, my young husband’s brain cancer tossed me into single parenting when our son was 10 and our daughter was 8. This was not the life I wanted, nor the life I had planned. But suddenly I was dealing with unfamiliar and rough, stormy waters, rowing like crazy. And it seemed as though all the people around me were in yachts and tossing advice instead of life preservers.

So, it doesn’t matter whether our status as a single mother came through death or divorce, never having married or other situations life has thrown into our laps—you and I are in the same boat. And occasionally, maybe even often, this boat looks too small for our great needs. But don’t lose hope. Our little boat is far more sea worthy than it appears.

Yes, single mothering is tough. But you can keep putting one foot in front of the other. You can raise your children to be responsible, cheerful adults. How? By hanging onto the Lord and not longing for rescue from those who have less-than-honorable intentions.

So what is the first step to keep from being swept away by the present rough waters? Take a deep breath and pray! Don’t worry about using fancy words or searching for the right phrases. After all, the most sincere prayer we can utter is just one word: “Help!”

Let me stress that the Creator of the Universe, Maker of heaven and earth, is not a celestial bellboy who hurries to answer our pleas exactly in the way and the time in which we want. But I’m convinced if we will ask Him for help, we will receive it. The help may come in the form of a creative idea, a new opportunity, an unexpected solution or even a miracle. As I began my solo journey of learning more about the Lord, I also found—to my surprise—my own God-given worth. You will, too. And that understanding of who you are because of His love will allow you to replace despair with hope. Yes, you will smile again even as you row against the tide. The strength you discover through prayer will allow you to find peaceful waters for yourself and for your children.

Sandra P. Aldrich, author of 18 books and popular inspirational speaker, is the president of Bold Words, Inc. For more information or work from Sandra, visit 

2018-06-11T15:18:03+00:00March 25th, 2013|Help For Single Moms, Sandra Aldrich|5 Comments


  1. Gail Showalter March 25, 2013 at 2:48 pm - Reply

    So well said, Sandra. I like that you made it clear God “is not a celestial bellboy.” I have numerous examples of ways I received just what I needed though not in the way I might have chosen or expected. Thanks for being one of the first to tell it like it is and to hang in there for us all.

    • Sandra Aldrich March 25, 2013 at 3:23 pm - Reply

      Thank you for your gracious words, Gail. Your heart for the Lord and for hurting folks makes a vast difference to all who know you. God bless you and your Kingdom work. Hugs across the miles!

  2. Wendy Jordan March 26, 2013 at 8:41 pm - Reply

    Thank you Sandra for these words of encouragement for single mothers!

  3. Pam Kanaly March 27, 2013 at 2:53 am - Reply

    HI Gail. Loved the article. What an encouragement for single moms! Thanks for sharing.

  4. SaVonni Yestanti April 15, 2013 at 12:55 pm - Reply

    I love that: God is not a celestial bellboy! LOL! Sandra that was too funny and I’m grateful for the laugh. A beautiful and no fluff way to encourage single moms. 🙂

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