How’s your day going? Oh, wait. You’re a single mother. I know how it’s going. You’re dealing with too much stress, too little time, and too little money. And I bet folks are commenting on your mistakes—real or otherwise—as they offer unsolicited advice.
How do I know? Because years ago, my young husband’s brain cancer tossed me into single parenting when our son was 10 and our daughter was 8. This was not the life I wanted, nor the life I had planned. But suddenly I was dealing with unfamiliar and rough, stormy waters, rowing like crazy. And it seemed as though all the people around me were in yachts and tossing advice instead of life preservers.
So, it doesn’t matter whether our status as a single mother came through death or divorce, never having married or other situations life has thrown into our laps—you and I are in the same boat. And occasionally, maybe even often, this boat looks too small for our great needs. But don’t lose hope. Our little boat is far more sea worthy than it appears.
Yes, single mothering is tough. But you can keep putting one foot in front of the other. You can raise your children to be responsible, cheerful adults. How? By hanging onto the Lord and not longing for rescue from those who have less-than-honorable intentions.
So what is the first step to keep from being swept away by the present rough waters? Take a deep breath and pray! Don’t worry about using fancy words or searching for the right phrases. After all, the most sincere prayer we can utter is just one word: “Help!”
Let me stress that the Creator of the Universe, Maker of heaven and earth, is not a celestial bellboy who hurries to answer our pleas exactly in the way and the time in which we want. But I’m convinced if we will ask Him for help, we will receive it. The help may come in the form of a creative idea, a new opportunity, an unexpected solution or even a miracle. As I began my solo journey of learning more about the Lord, I also found—to my surprise—my own God-given worth. You will, too. And that understanding of who you are because of His love will allow you to replace despair with hope. Yes, you will smile again even as you row against the tide. The strength you discover through prayer will allow you to find peaceful waters for yourself and for your children.
Sandra P. Aldrich, author of 18 books and popular inspirational speaker, is the president of Bold Words, Inc. For more information or work from Sandra, visit http://www.sandraaldrich.com/.
The Life of a Single Mom is a national, faith-based, nonprofit that exists to see that no single mom walks alone. To date, we have worked with more than 1,500 churches & community groups to start or improve a single mom’s support group in cities throughout the U.S. and beyond. We have a large array of books, curriculum, training materials, and online instructional videos to support ministry leaders who lead single moms. Our single mom programs focus on empowering single moms to grow spiritually, emotionally, financially, and parentally through a number of projects including: Single Mom University, Single Moms Across America, the National TLSM Single Moms Conference, and a variety of programs throughout the U.S. For more information, visit www.thelifeofasinglemom.com