Proper Motivation by Amanda Carroll

“Most people give up just when they’re about to achieve success. They quit on the one-yard line. They give up at the last minute of the game one foot from a winning touchdown.” – Ross Perot

I learned that lesson the hard way yesterday. I quit.

There’s something you may know not about me, but I’m one of those crazy Crossfit girls.  I love the intensity of it, but more importantly I love how strong it makes me, physically and mentally.

Yesterday, I was competing in a little tire pull competition.  You know those big tractor tires, well we crazy Crossfit girls run while pulling them.  I was trying to beat the best time of women in my gym.  Right now I’m in third.  I hate third.  I’m extremely competitive.

So, I went for a second round.  My coach asked, “What can I say to get you fired up during that last stretch?”  I told him, remind me of _____ (a person that wronged me who will not be named)!  I thought it would make me mad enough to want to conquer that tire pull.

But, when I got to that point where I couldn’t pull anymore, the thought of the past hurt made me collapse.  I literally fell on the ground and barely crawled across that finish line.  Defeated.

I found out that if I had remained standing and just walked, I would have beat my best time.  In Crossfit we call that a PR, Personal Record.

Reflecting on the past is never going to help you win.  If you live your life carrying around, bitter about every single bad thing someone has done to you, or bad thing you did yourself, it will only leave you on the ground, unable to move forward, defeated.

Oh Lord, free us from that.  I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to be that kind of woman.

I’m going try that tire pull race again.  And this time in that last stretch uphill to the finish line, I will ask my coach to pray for me.  I will ask him to quote God’s word, and to remind me of how far I’ve come, and what is possible when you let go of defeat, and say hello to courage.

“Let us strip off every weight that slows us down, especially the sin that so easily trips us up. And let us run with endurance the race God has set before us.” -Hebrews 12:1


Amanda CarrollAmanda Carroll calls herself a “Professional Mother” and is a single parent of 3 children under 7. Her family’s mission statement is to “Work hard, play hard. See needs, and meet them. Change the way the world sees God one life at a time.”  She can be heard weekdays 10a-2p CST at She is also a frequent speaker at women’s events, nationwide.



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2018-08-08T11:49:02+00:00January 27th, 2014|Amanda Carroll, Help For Single Moms|4 Comments


  1. Suzanne January 26, 2014 at 7:16 pm - Reply

    I So needed this today! Thank you for sharing.

    • Davila August 31, 2014 at 10:07 pm - Reply


      I’m a real big fan of yours(: I think of you when I can’t go any further during difficult times when I want to quit and find the fortitude to press on. Often since I’ve begun to run again your my motivation to press-on past the finish line. I suppose if we didn’t have you to help propel and encourage us we’d lose heart. We love you for all you do for us girls.


  2. Angelina Giyatinag January 31, 2014 at 1:29 am - Reply

    Wow! You are an encouragement to me right now! I am a single mother of one 7-years-old boy who is very active.From just everyday life can be tiring sometimes on top of that trying to makes ends meet can weigh me down,BUT I am thankful God is with me always getting through each day.Just reading this article and the fact you have 3 kids(I just the 1)yet you are so eager to tackle your challenge head on confirms to me that I can still tackle my dreams that I have put aside! 🙂 God bless you and thank you for shating!

  3. Pamala February 7, 2014 at 11:15 pm - Reply

    I started Crossfit six weeks ago after no exercise in 12 years. I went there on a whim, I thought. I know now that God intended for me to be there with that trainer. He told me it was about traing to change, not only my body, but also my mind. After a week with him, I understood. I had spent the last two months in counselling dealing with a devastating break up. I had to focus all my strength, energy, and mind on lifting while I was there. There were no more struggles with myself in my mind and thoughts. For the first time in months, I didn’t cry at night because I was exhausted and needed to sleep. As a bonus, God sent me to a trainer with similar struggles in life. He was a Christian who has given me invaluable advice while I am laying on the turf after a WOD I thought I would never be able to do. Crossfit and Mike have been a blessing in my life. Everything does happen for a reason and in God’s perfect time.

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