Presenting the Idea for a Single Moms’ Ministry in Your Church

Presenting the idea of launching a new single moms’ support group in your church can be quite intimidating, especially if you are not on staff. The Life of a Single Mom Ministries has done more than seven years of research on effective single moms’ program in churches. Here are a few tips to presenting the idea to your pastor:

1. Be prepared. Pastors and ministry leaders are super-busy, being pulled in a variety of directions every day. Be sure you have done your research on the statistics of single moms in your area, ministry ideas, costs, etc. This will not only save time, but will also let your leadership team know how dedicated you are. An appropriate presentation should include your personal story of why you have a heart for single moms, statistics on why single moms’ ministries are important, Biblical reference to why ministry to single mothers needs to exists, and a template on how to get one started.  This is why we’ve removed the guess work and created The Church and the Single Mom book. This book will also highlight letters from single mothers throughout the United States and their perceptions of the local church. Pick up a copy before you meet with your pastor!

2. Have a plan. When will you start the ministry? Who will help you? Who will handle childcare? Will meals be available for the women and children? What curriculum and subject matter will you teach the single moms? Date? Times? Frequency? Location? Budget? Consider every part of the single moms’ ministry and what the details will be. (As info, The Church and the Single Mom book details a logistical plan and dedicates a chapter to ways to launch the group). For more information on recruiting volunteers, planning a single moms’ event, and more, visit our Ministry Leaders page HERE.

3. Speak from a place of hope, not accusation. Far too often, single moms who have a great desire to minister to other single moms and launch a single moms’ ministry, event, or support group speak about church leadership from a place of judgement or hurt versus hope and encouragement. For example, it is better to avoid such statements as, “When I was going through my divorce, I really didn’t feel like you guys were there for me. That’s why I want to start this ministry.” It is far better to say, “During my divorce, church was vital to my healing. I think there are many other single moms who could benefit from having a place to connect.”

4. Consider the costs. Do you have time to lead a single moms support group in your church? Have you recruited volunteers to help? Will it cost the church money or resources? Are you spiritually healthy enough to lead others? Are their old wounds, hurt, or relationships that need to be forgiven that could hinder you on the path of drawing closer to the Lord? These are all real “costs” related to launching a single mom’s ministry. You better believe when you step out in faith to honor the Lord, the enemy is not happy.  Be prepared to fight!

6. Accept that you may not be the best leader of the group. This is a hard one. You may be passionate about your own journey and how hard it was and how God walked you through it, but be prayerful about who God wants to lead the ministry. It may very well be you, but it may not. It may be that the pastors love the idea of launching a program, but are hesitant to put you in charge, because you haven’t established trust with your leadership team, yet. Or maybe they simply don’t know enough about you, yet. Keep focused on the main thing, which is ministering to single moms, and accept that your time will come, if God wants you in that position.

7. Resource yourself. The more books, research, articles, websites, and first-hand experience you bring to the table, the better your meeting and future ministry will go.

8. Pray. Pray. Pray. Be patient and wait on God to move. It may not be tomorrow or next week. (In fact, our founder had to wait an entire year for a yes!) Some pastors love the idea and jump right in. Others take time. Stay committed to praying and waiting. Stay faithful to your journey. Grow while you wait. Pray for your pastoral team, single moms you know, and single moms you don’t yet know. Allow God to do what is that He does. Allow Him to move the hearts of the pastors in your community for this necessary and life-changing ministry.

The Life of a Single Mom

The Life of a Single Mom is a national, faith-based, nonprofit that is one of the nation’s largest single-mom centric organizations. We focus on equipping churches and communities on how to reach single mothers, establish ministry plans, and grow existing single moms’ programs. We provide curriculum, training, host events, and offer a wide array of single mom products and services to ensure that no single mom walks alone. Currently, we are serving 72,000+ single mothers each year. For more information, visit www.thelifeofasinglemom.com

 

2018-06-11T16:25:58+00:00August 6th, 2013|Help For Ministry Leaders|16 Comments

16 Comments

  1. Denise September 16, 2013 at 12:51 pm - Reply

    I’ve been asked by my pastor to head our single moms ministry but I don’t know how to go about getting started can you help me?

    • Jennifer Maggio September 18, 2013 at 4:42 pm - Reply

      Our ministry staff emailed you.

  2. pinki flowers September 22, 2013 at 4:49 am - Reply

    God has called me to start a single moms ministry..I am a single mom of five boys and my journey has been quite the rolleroaster i could not have done it without my faith in the Lord ..he is so good ..I have tremendous amount of dependance on our Lord and saviour and want to share the great path holding Gods hand through the difficult path …im excited to get your information so i can help and inspire single moms around the world…Times are tough for me at the moment but God has bigger plans and knows the end frim the beginning.amen……..my Pastor Wayne from Summit Church in Castlerock colorado is ready to rock this out…Tomorrow at church we are announcing…I will email yal when i get the funds to purchase your amazing teaching supplys..please pray for me and our church that God will use this.ministry to bless and encourage single moms everywhere and may God get the Glory amen…thank you for your time and ministry…God Bless your ministry and to many more lost souls to be found…..Amen…..Sincerely and God bless Pinki Flowers

    • Jennifer Maggio September 23, 2013 at 6:02 pm - Reply

      @pinki flowers, we are so excited about what God is doing in your heart and your church! How cool!. Please email us all the info, when it starts and we’ll add it to our database, so refer people to it! info@thelifeofasinglemom.com

  3. Lorie Ratliff November 2, 2013 at 4:22 pm - Reply

    Hello Jennifer,
    I started a single mom’s ministry at my church a year ago, and it was amazing how God prepared everyone’s heart for me and His vision. The doors flew open! He has given me another vision of beginning a community wide, one stop shop for single mom’s in my county. In my journey I found how important it is to connect with other women in my similar circumstance and with the same faith. In these relationships I found resources for everything from getting help with cleaning out gutters to helping each other with child care and drying each other’s tears. And most importantly, encouraging each other through prayers and the love of our Eternal Husband. The group has remained small (about 7 of us). I call it our core group. My church is large, and there are many women I would love to reach. I heard it said that when we ask for miracles, God prepares us and then uses us and uses things within our reach to make those miracles happen. So, to sum up my prattling here, I would so appreciate many prayers in my proposal to my church and community for the one stop shop (that is a future endeavor), and most importantly prayers for the current group to grow slowly, steadily, and strongly.
    Thank you for your heart, your obedience and all you do,
    Lorie

    • Anonymous September 28, 2014 at 12:33 pm - Reply

      I am wondering to see if is something that can be done here in south florida.

  4. Pearl January 8, 2014 at 4:19 am - Reply

    Hi

    I want to start a single moms ministry in my church. Tips on how to present it to my leadership and how to start it off.

    I have invited a few single moms to join me for prayer one saturday morning and saw the need to have this ministry.

  5. Dana February 7, 2014 at 3:10 pm - Reply

    Hello! I’m an American living in Sydney Australia… I just want to say what a joy it has been since I found this website. I have been wanting to start a Single mums group at my church, got the support from pastors and interest from the church community and single mums themselves! During my research I realised there is not such ministry in Sydney (unless something has popped up since my last search). I was a bit daunted by the chore of starting from scratch. I have recently ordered the kit to get this off the ground and am very keen to begin!

    Just wanted to share in the joy and how God has guided my heart. Trust in Him and he will open the doors…

    Much love to all
    Dana xo

  6. Merry B. April 27, 2014 at 4:42 pm - Reply

    Hi Jennifer,

    I came across your ministry page while browsing the K-Love website and it was like being hit by a bolt of lightning. I immediately ordered and devoured your book “The Church and the Single Mom.” I really feel like I am being called to this ministry. I am not sure if I am meant to be the leader or not, but I am praying for guidance. As a single mom myself, I am acutely aware of the challenges that we – and our children – face. We need God! I have come through so much myself. I could not have made it through without the grace and love of my Father in heaven. I think that I have identified a single moms ministry gap in my town. There are sooooo many moms and I am speaking to various churches. So far I am finding that there is no similar ministry in our area. My pastor has been very receptive to conversation about the ministry possibilities and supportive of the fact that the Spirit has been laying this on my heart. I am working on my research. Please pray for us in this endeavor. Any advice is welcome!

  7. Yvonne Zwindila nee Kesena November 12, 2014 at 6:16 am - Reply

    I started a blog and Facebook page to encourage single moms. I haven’t yet resented it to my church, but would love to do that. I want the community to grow a bit before I present it as a separate ministry from the general Women and Singles ministry that already is. What would be the best approach? And how fo I start a physical group? Thanks…

    • TLSMSTAFF November 18, 2014 at 11:35 am - Reply

      Thanks for your heart to serve single moms. We have a a web page that breaks down all the steps to starting your physical group, including how to talk to your pastor, what ministry resource materials you need, and much, much more. Please visit: http://thelifeofasinglemom.com/start-a-single-moms-group/

  8. Jody January 1, 2015 at 8:42 pm - Reply

    Please send me some guidance on how to start a successful single moms group. I have been a single mom of two boys since 2007, went through a lot and found my strength through Christ and my church family. My church would definitely benefit from this ministry, I have s meeting with the Pastors this month to get the ball rolling. I have felt God calling me for sometime for this ministry, please help me answer my calling and bring Glory to God.

  9. Jenjenn November 10, 2016 at 3:18 am - Reply

    I was asked to lead a a “Single Mom Ministry” in my church in Singapore. I started researching and found your site. I gathered a lot of information and am still feeling my way through to prepare a proposal for this ministry to my elder and pastor. They have acknowledged the importance of one. For starters we will be running on a very low budget. I appreciate any advice and tips to make the ministry an effective and viable for the Single Moms.

  10. Noelia A. Roldan November 17, 2016 at 7:27 pm - Reply

    One day I was praying and when I got up my Pastor approach me ,I listened as he said I am considering you for one of my ministries and I was wondering If we can talk about this . I told him Pastor is the ministry you arerefering to is the single mom ministry. He studdered and asked, How do you know this? my answer was because I been praying over this for months He Hug me and said it will happen .I notice that I am the only single mom in this church ,and I know they are so many young single moms that can relate to my situation ,I would like to do it. It remains a thought until God makes it a fact . Our Church is growing , at the moment I am part of the childrens ministry . just asked for guidance and prayer to accomplished what God has put in my heart .

  11. Elizabeth December 4, 2016 at 9:28 pm - Reply

    I have a burning desire in my heart to start a ministry for single mom’s! I am seeking God’s direction to see if I should do this as it’s own standing entity so itcan be open and not exclusive to our church… I don’t know where to start… please share any ideas… we are Located in San Diego California… thank you

  12. Angela December 6, 2016 at 12:54 pm - Reply

    Hi

    Am Angela and in Zimbabwe. we also want to start the Single mom club at our church may you please help us

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