I like to move fast and get a lot done. As a life coach I know how to set goals and stick to a plan. Really, what kind of coach would I be if I didn’t do it myself?

I respond to every email within 24 hours, I post daily for the ministry I run on social media, I juggle multiple projects at once and still make it home for dinner. I am a check-it-off-your-list-rockstar!


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Most days I figure God is pleased with what I get done for Him.

But the sneaky thing that comes upon me is this – I can be going along at warp speed and not even consider if my plan for the day is okay with God. I end up working for Him but without Him.

We live in a culture of immediate or fast gratification. Everyone wants to feel validated so we can go post on Facebook and have likes within seconds. We want to eat, we go through fast food, we want to be entertained, we turn on the radio or TV and we don’t even need to wait for a Sunday sermon anymore, we can go to a podcast or YouTube and get our spiritual boost. If we want something we don’t need to ask God to give it to us. We just go for it.

That kind of daily buzz can set us up for terrible disappointment when it comes to things we can’t control. Like experiencing a healing, meeting a mate, or another answered prayer. We take our daily experiences and impose those expectations on God. And sometimes (most times) He doesn’t respond as fast as the fast food cashier.

Or we do this ….

For the more spiritual times, we ask God for His perfect plan or our day. I think sometimes because we don’t want to be disappointed, we think waiting is a sign of spiritual wisdom and growth. It certainly feels more holy to “wait upon the Lord.” We glamorize waiting and exalt it like a Christian superpower. Because don’t all super-Christians ask their Bible study to pray with them to receive confirmation before making a move?

I think the challenge is that we get so good at waiting we don’t do anything. We are like spiritual gluttons waiting for our perfect fill of the Holy Spirit before we make the first step. We can’t just sit around and say “God knows the right timing” when He’s given us authority over the earth.

What if a partnership with God looked like this:

Proverbs 8:34, “Blessed is the one who listens to me, watching daily at my gates, waiting beside my doors.”

We can pray (and listen). We can watch for the signs (the area of the gate). And it seems to me that to be waiting outside the door, we have to get to the door! That means being active but not pushing the door open. Waiting to be invited into what God has for us.

Partnering with God in the wait is about doing what you can do and letting God do what only He can do.

What is that dream God’s given you? What is one step you can take? If God opened the door, would you be ready?



Jill Monaco is an author, speaker and life coach. As the Founder and CEO of Jill Monaco Ministries, a 501c3 non profit that publishes the online magazine SingleMatters.com. She is also the creator of the interactive coaching program for singles From Looking To Loving: Find the Breakthrough You Need So You Can Have The Relationship You Want. She  developed the Freedom Coach Model and loves helping people find freedom and purpose so they can live a life they love. As a teacher and speaker, Jill is known for captivating audiences with her high-energy, humorous approach to life’s serious issues. You can learn more about Jill at www.jillmonaco.com


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