The mad rush of packing is over. The house is quiet. The kids are with their dad. Now what? You’re on your own.
Single moms, I don’t know about you, but one of my biggest challenges after my divorce was what to do with the free time that came during visitations. At first, it felt like I was missing an arm. I was almost zombie-like trying to get things accomplished around the house while the kids were gone. I would make these to-do lists two pages long complete with trips to Home Depot, stock-ups at Costco, and scrubbing every floor and toilet in the house, but I was never able to fully cross anything off my to-do list. Not accomplishing “the list” was making me feel like a failure.
I was miserable and would sit on my couch, pray, cry, and watch too much TV. Then, I realized I had an amazing opportunity that most moms never get, free time! I free you from the guilt of enjoying your OMO (on my own) time. It’s okay.
It’s all about perspective. You have a choice. You can wallow in your OMO time, or you can seize the day! Whether it’s every other weekend, one night a week, or 6 weeks over the summer vacation, decide to enjoy it.
5 OMO Rules
- Thou shalt not make endless to-do lists. Choose one thing to tackle, one thing.
- Thou shalt sleep. Do not stay up all night watching movies! Turn the TV off and catch up on sleep. Ahhhhh….
- Thou shalt do something fun. Call your girlfriends and plan a lunch or even more fun a girls night out!
- Thou shalt carry a small purse. This is one of my favorite things of OMO time. Little cute purses. There is no need to carry a huge bag that holds diapers, snacks, first aid kits, and a change of clothing for your children. All you need is your ID, cash, and lipstick and you are ready to roll, mama!
- Thou shalt read and write. Curl up with a great book that will further your relationship with God, inspire you to go for your dream, or help you become a better parent. Use this time to grow and learn. You could even track your progress by writing all your thoughts and experiences during this time in a journal. That way years later you can look back and have evidence of how far you’ve come.
You were designed to live a life you love. You should not feel like you are living a half-life and have to go “underground” during those times you are OMO. The truth is you are never really OMO. There is a God that is crazy about you. He wants to be your first love. He wants to live your life with you. He wants you to trust Him, not worry so much, and allow Him to work out the details. You are not wasted. You were not thrown out with the trash. You matter. If you commit yourself to His design for your life now, you will never feel OMO.
Jesus said, “I came that they may have and enjoy life, and have it in abundance (to the full, till it overflows).” –John 10:10
So go have some OMO fun! You deserve it.
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