If you are anything like me, my roles change drastically in different times of my life. From being single and ready to mingle, to being a newlywed and then a mother of 2 incredible children. In that time, I transitioned from working full time as a nurse educator to being a stay at home mom and homeschooling my son…my son and I lived to tell the tale but just barely.
I have struggled with internalizing my core leadership identity even as my duties, obligations and roles changed and my struggle was less about how others saw me and more about how I saw myself. One fundamental mistake I made when trying to understand my identity was that I attached too much significance to my role. I went from being a bold decision maker in the boardroom to second guessing whether to use formula or cloth diapers. I did not recognize myself, the same woman who was confidently developing collegiate curriculum was frustrated to the point of tears trying to teach her 4 year old to read. Understanding the core of who I am as a mother and a leader is part of growing up and spiritual maturity.
What roles do you have as a single mother, a leader in ministry or a stay at home mother? No matter what your role is you have to take responsibility for those entrusted to you and utilize your God-given gifts to help them flourish whether that is in a boardroom, with peers or a bathtub with kids. You are designed to lead in your home as a single mother, what that looks like practically will differ from home to home. You have to drive the stake of your leadership identity deep into the foundation of the Word of God and know that where you are on the organization chart may change, your kids may not follow the path you want, you may feel insufficient at times, but it does not change who you are as a leader. Take purposeful action, resource yourself and exercise dominion in your home.
We have to be passionate about fully walking out our potential as leaders and single mothers because we want our children to be able to stand on our shoulders and go further than we ever dreamed possible. The best way for my children to be secure in their identity is to be nurtured by a mother who is secure in her identity in Christ. As a writer, when I sit down to pen thoughts and words, I know that my pen is more than a pen, it’s a baton. Let us make sure we pass on the baton.