Happy Father’s Day, Single Mom! by Jennifer Maggio

download (66)

There are few holidays that are more difficult for a single mother than Father’s Day. For this day highlights great lack in most single mother’s lives. The endless questions begin to flow.

“Why don’t my children have the loving father they deserve?”

“Why do I have to do everything and he does nothing?”

“Why must I struggle financially, because he chooses to pay no child support?”

Father’s Day could easily point out all the things you do not have, that your child does not have. It is easy to dwell on the failed marriage or relationship, on everything that could’ve and should’ve been, but now isn’t. Many of you may be facing tough questions from your children on this day about why their father isn’t around more.

But may I offer a different perspective?

Rather than focusing on what you lack (or your children lack), focus on what the day represents — an awesome father! Maybe you have never had an awesome earthly father. Maybe you are frustrated because your children lack that, as well. Well, I have good news for you. You have an awesome Heavenly Father….and so do your children! Teach them that. Our Heavenly Father loves us. The Bible says he will NEVER fail us, leave us, or forsake us. His plans for us are to prosper us and to set us on higher ground. He watches over us. He nurtures us and shows us mercy and grace. He protects us and disciplines us. Isn’t that what a good father does?

Ladies, I cannot explain why you have walked through the hardships you have. But….I do know that God’s timing is perfect. I do know that his ways are mysterious, yet wise. I know that he is your hope, source, refuge, and peace. Your home is not a “broken” one, for if you have chosen to make the Lord the center of your life, then he has completed your family perfectly in this season. You don’t have to live life in limbo waiting on the next season. Live this season fully.

The Lord gives strength, when we are weak. Today, you may find yourself weak, but I want you to know his loves never fails and one day, in his perfect timing, your children will be restored. They will have a loving father and you, a loving husband. Until that day comes, focus on the abundance in your life — the healthy children, the job God has afforded you to provide for your family, the transportation you drive, the friends who love you, etc.

Psalm 23:6 “Surely, your goodness and unfailing love will pursue me all the days of my life and I will live in the house of the Lord forever.”

Editor’s Note: The Life of a Single Mom Ministries celebrates every father who is parenting his children well, despite a difficult divorce or failed relationship. This article in no way depicts that every single mother lacks an active father in her child’s life, but merely wants to encourage those who are facing such a challenge.

Jennifer MaggioJennifer Maggio is an award-winning author and speaker whose personal story is leaving audiences around the globe riveted. She is founder of The Life of a Single Mom Ministries. She has a passion to see every single mom live the life God intended. For more information, visit www.jennifermaggio.com

2016-10-17T16:12:10+00:00June 14th, 2014|Uncategorized|8 Comments


  1. Heather Cook-Portelance June 14, 2014 at 9:42 am - Reply

    my children spend fathers day with their father but my father has passed away 12 yrs ago so I spend the day alone, that is the hardest part of fathers day for me

    • Becky June 15, 2014 at 10:00 am - Reply

      I’m in the same boat as you. My father passed away almost 3 years ago and my daughter goes to her dad’s. We are recently separated so I too spend it alone. It’s the first for us. And it’s difficult. Just know we are not alone!

  2. Jené Clark June 14, 2014 at 11:27 am - Reply

    This is what I needed today. Thank you!!!

  3. Bonnie Hazelwood-Garcoa June 14, 2014 at 6:59 pm - Reply

    Such encouragement! For a few years after my daughter’s dad left I felt this, yet I raised her to be a true princess, for that is what a daughter of a King is. My daughter often said that grandpa, my dad, taught her that all men are NOT like her dad. Sadly, my dad passed away a year and a half ago. Father’s Day is very sad, now, but, we will get through it, thanks for the positive reminders!!!

  4. Angie June 14, 2014 at 11:06 pm - Reply

    Since I became a single mom, I have hated Father’s Day because of the very reasons the article mentions. And Father’s Day at church is the Worst! (I actually stay home on that day) But, I decided that this year I was Not going to be an angry, bitter woman. and this article has given me the perspective that I need to release all anger and bitterness.

  5. Laurie June 15, 2014 at 5:19 pm - Reply

    I know God says He is a father to the fatherless and a husband to the widow, but it really hard to see that when your alone.

  6. Lori June 16, 2014 at 5:13 pm - Reply

    Thank!!! you so much for this uplifting article. My sons dad has never been in his life. I ask myself many times why??? He is amazing in every single way. Now that he is 7 years he asks about his dad and why he is not around. He says even though he remembers him a little bit years ago, that he still loves him. This BREAKS my heart every time.:( The only thing I know is that I am doing my part as a Christian mom. God’s time is not our time. I know he wants the best for his children. Thank you God!! Because I know your love never ever fails. I feel you so close.

  7. christina January 5, 2015 at 6:10 pm - Reply

    I struggle daily with being single. I really needed this. Thank you.

Leave A Comment