One Sunday during the Christmas season, my three-year-old son explained to me what he had learned in Sunday School. I had asked him what the teacher had taught, and like any typical child his age, his one word answer was, “Jesus”. I pressed further and asked him what he had learned about Jesus. He answered, “About Jesus being born”. I thought I would investigate a little more and I asked him where Jesus was born. With all the confidence and excitement he could express, he answered, “Behind the stove in the kitchen!” As the minutes ticked by, I attempted to correct him. There was no correcting him. He was thoroughly convinced that he was right, and I was wrong. Later, as I was talking with my best friend, who was also his Sunday School teacher, we realized what had happened. While she was telling the story of Jesus’ birth, her husband was sitting nearby. When it came to the part of the story of Jesus being born, her husband pulled a baby doll from behind the play stove (where they had hidden him until time to reveal the baby) and gently laid him in the designated area so the kids would see. Of course, on that day and for many years now, there has been much laughter over this particular version of Jesus’ birth.

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What we realized is that while our son was listening to his teacher tell the Christmas story, he was watching her husband and saw him take the doll out of the hiding place which was behind the play stove. As I have thought about the humor of this story; I also find truth for us adults. There are times, we are listening to what someone is telling us about God, but we convince ourselves that what we are seeing trumps real truth. As a single mom, your circumstances can overwhelm you. Your situation can seem bleak. Your tired body can begin to listen to raw emotions.

Don’t Know Where to Go From Here?

It can be easy to begin to allow what you see to shape and overshadow the truth of God’s Word. When you are focused on the impossibility of your circumstances, you can be tempted to minimize the power of God. It is real and much bigger than your circumstances.

Now to Him who is able to do exceedingly, abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that works in us. Ephesians 3:20

Feeling Hopeless?

When your situation seems bleak and those feelings of hopelessness are trying to be the truth to your hurting heart, and you begin to think you will not make it. Satan will put things and people in your path that will try to persuade you that what they offer is real comfort. You will want to focus on what you see and tune out what you know to be true. “We never cry out to God and receive a returned check stamped, “insufficient grace””.

And He has said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for power is perfected in weakness.” Most gladly, therefore, I will rather boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may dwell in me. 2 Corinthians 12:9

Battling Fatigue?

When the fatigue of the single mom life is driving you (and there are those days), you can find soul rest. The tired life of the single mom is unique, and Satan will use it to steal your joy. In these moments listen intently to what God speaks over you and don’t give in to what you see and feel.

“The Lord your God is in your midst, A victorious warrior. He will exult over you with joy, He will be quiet in His love, He will rejoice over you with shouts of joy. Zephaniah 3:17



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Joy Anisa would have never dreamed that her life would be filled with such incredible sadness that comes with loss. She never would have imagined that she would experience the personal effects of emotional and mental abuse, the silent killer of the soul. She is in awe of how God is the keeper of her soul and He has kept what she committed to Him. He would not allow her soul to be destroyed! Joy Anisa is married to Jeff, a bi-vocational pastor and they live in Conyers, GA. Their oldest daughter, Meighan, is serving for a year with the London City Mission in London, England. Their son, Caid, is a sophomore at Eagles Landing Christian Academy and plays football. A graduate of She Speaks with Proverbs 31 Ministries, Joy’s story will inspire, encourage, and bring laughter through the tears.


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