I understand what broken looks like and what broken feels like. It’s where I lived for far too many years. It defined me.

You see, I was conceived as the result of a rape, so, I always knew that I wasn’t just an unplanned or an unwanted pregnancy, I was a woman’s worst nightmare.

I was adopted by two wonderful parents, but when I was only 3 years old my innocence was stolen by two different people in my family and for the next 10 years, broken described my life.

You don’t escape that kind of experience without being marked and marred by it.

I entered my teen years feeling like a throw away girl-someone to be used and abused. So, I spent years looking for love in all the wrong places, wandering in the wilderness of my own foolish choices, and wondering if anyone could ever love someone like me.

Both of my children were conceived out of wedlock and I went through two divorces and three marriages-all before I was 23 years old.

But on a crisp October day in 1987, God took this girl with a broken past and a bleak future and gave me hope, healing, forgiveness, and peace.

He changed my life, He changed my heart, He changed my perspective, He changed my destiny, and He changed my identity.

People often ask me if I still struggle with the pain of my past…and to be honest, I really don’t. Oh, there are times when I’m haunted by childhood memories and I grieve over what was and what could have and should have been.

But when my mind goes there, I don’t let stay there.

Proverbs 23:7 tells us, “As a man thinks in his heart, so is he.” OR ‘As he calculates in his soul, so is he.”

You see, broken is who I was. It is no longer who I am.

Colossians 2:10 says, “and you are complete in Him, who is the head of all principality and power.”

Today, I want to encourage each of you who may have been walking around with scars on your heart for far too long. Your new identity changes everything and because of who you are in Christ, you are broken no more.

You are loved with an everlasting love; you are the apple of His eye, He has inscribed you upon the palm of His hand and called you by name; you are a beautiful masterpiece – a Divine design – carefully crafted by the Creator of the universe; He knows the thoughts of your heart and the number of hairs on your head; He will never leave you or forsake you.

He has made you more than a conqueror through Christ and a wonderful warrior of the Most High God; He sees you right now…everything you’re going through…everything you’ve been through…and He promises to weave the ugly strands of your life into something beautiful and useful in the Master’s hands.

And that truth, sweet friends, is absolutely liberating!

Stephanie-ShottStephanie Shott is the founder of The M.O.M. Initiative, a ministry devoted to helping the body of Christ make mentoring intentionally missional. She is an author and a popular speaker who helps women live full, fearless and faithful lives. To invite Stephanie to speak at your next event, visit her website at www.stephanieshott.com. To find out more about The M.O.M. Initiative or to begin a M.O.M. Mentor Group, visit www.themominitiative.com.


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