Behave in ways congruent with who you are in Christ. It can be quite a challenge to realign yourself from the narrative that our society has labeled you to be. Where does one really start in the process of changing her story? As a wellness expert in the single mom community, it is my joy to empower single moms with the tools and strategies they need to have a holistic transformation to reclaim their life of abundance.
As I embarked upon my own journey of becoming more congruent with who I am in Christ, I had to understand the definition or meaning of congruence in behavior and mindset, sit down, and map out what that looked like for me. Congruency is when a person acts in direct accordance with their dreams. Most dreams are not prophetic, but they are still placed on your heart by God. Acting in direct accordance with your dreams requires a confident attitude toward God, involving commitment to His will for your life. One who behaves in ways congruent with who they want to be doesn't let the circumstance or thoughts of others affect their approach to living out their dreams. A more simplified definition of congruency is “being on the same page” with someone else, or, in this particular case, your dreams.
Listen to what Jesus has to say about behavior congruency in to Matthew 12:25-26:
Jesus knew their thoughts and said to them, “Every kingdom divided against itself will be ruined, and every city or household divided against itself will not stand. If Satan drives out Satan, he is divided against himself. How then can his kingdom stand?”
Living a congruent lifestyle not only makes for a healthier home, but it makes for a healthier individual. One who is living in harmony with their emotions, mind, body, spirit, and finances! When you behave congruently, there is no need for a mask or for pretense. In order to achieve or master congruency (doesn’t that have a nice ring? To master congruency!), when I mentor single mothers, we learn the art of Eating the Elephant. Believe me, it can get a bit overwhelming when you look at areas of your life as whole instead of breaking it down into segments and tackling one area at a time. The first step to behaving in ways congruent with who you want to be is breaking limit beliefs. Ask yourself these two transformative questions as you break free from rigid thoughts and embrace a more flexible mindset:
WHO TOLD YOU THAT?
This is to determine whose voice you are listening to: God's, the enemy's, or your own thoughts.
WHAT'S YOUR "I CAN"?
This second question is to tap into your inner resources and potential and realize your ‘I can’ in purpose, business, and family as you become more congruent.
“My sheep hear my voice, and I know them, and they follow me…” - John 10:27
MEET THE AUTHOR
Kristy Angelee is an inspirational speaker, author, businesswoman, and personal chef who balances career, ministry, and family. She is redefining what it means to be a modern single mom of faith. She has a passion for empowering single moms to overcome obstacles. Whether through her book, business, or coaching, she delivers transformational messages that are powerful and empowers not only single moms but every people, nation, tribe, and tongue seeking to reclaim their life with Christ.
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WHO WE ARE
The Life of a Single Mom is a national, faith-based, nonprofit that exists to see that no single mom walks alone. To date, the organization has worked with hundreds of churches to start a single mom’s support group in cities throughout the U.S. and beyond, as well as having served hundreds of thousands of single mothers with a variety of programs. Offering a large array of books, curriculum, training materials, online instructional videos, podcasts, newsletters, life skills education, and more, TLSM is one of the largest single mom organizations in the U.S. The robust selection of single mom programs focus on empowering single moms to grow spiritually, emotionally, financially, and parentally through Single Mom University, Single Moms Across America, the National TLSM Single Moms Conference, boot camps, and a variety of other programs. For more information, visit thelifeofasinglemom.com.
