Now that you and God have a two-way communication thing going on, and He has revealed your purpose, it’s time for action. It can appear in a variety of different way, but the key is that you are all in. What does action look like for you? It could be putting on the workshop, joining the choir, making the t-shirts, signing up for the class or research—only you know.

The point is not to sit there and wait for it to fall in your lap. The important thing is to move. But beware, fear has a way of creeping up on you. The voice of doubt can be so loud that it can paralyze you. It’s up to you to drown it out with God’s promises and dismiss it altogether. Fear is a liar! In fact, when fear comes up you should run in that direction. My pastor tells the story of how he was afraid of heights so he learned how to fly a plane. WOW. Think about it: Everything you want is on the other side of fear.

The enemy knows that you are a game changer.

Anything he can do to get and keep you off track, he will try. Whether it’s fear, a toxic relationship, a medical diagnosis, or even non-productive web-surfing, you must be on guard at all times. Your purpose is so very important to the world and it’s imperative that you carry out your part. There are people who are waiting for you to come along and help solve their problems. Remember, someone needs what you have to offer and they’re just waiting for you to show up.

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I recently saw the movie Mission: Impossible—Fallout (No.6). Man, I feel like I’ve been missing out all these years because I’ve only seen the first one back in 1996. The shocking thing I learned about all of these movies is that the lead actor, Tom Cruise, does all of his own stunts. I thought, “WHAAAT!?!” He’s jumping out of planes, fighting, you name it. I’m sure if he walked onto a set and asked for a stunt double he’d have a team of them chomping at the bit.

Then it hit me. Tom Cruise is not only doing his job, but he’s ALL IN. He studies his craft and puts it into action. Getting certified to fly a helicopter for the movie took him half the time because he intentionally spent twice the amount of time in the air under instruction. All in. Even after he broke his ankle by jumping from one rooftop building to another, he wasn’t satisfied with the prognosis that, “It’ll be nine months before you run, if you ever run again.” He ended up filming the running scene 5 months later. All in. I’m thinking OMG, this guy is crazy! But I see that it’s passion.

Passion is where your purpose is.

Whatever happens on the road to your destiny, there will be setbacks, heartbreak, fear, mistakes, etc., but you can’t let anything get you off track. You may even slow down but always keep moving.

Being all in for God and all in for your purpose is what will fuel you for the race. We are called to be light. You are designed to shine on purpose. Someone is watching how you treat your kids, handle that broken heart, drama, disappointment, your time management, what you “like” on social media, and even how you’re going after your purpose. Matthew 5:14-16 says, “You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.”

Put It Into Action

When you are putting into action and going all in on what God has birthed in you, you are shining. He is the power source of your light. As a result of you shining, your children will shine as well. By you taking the steps, you’re encouraging someone to trust God with their dreams so they can shine too.


Kenya S. UlmerMeet Certified Life Coach, Forthcoming Author, and Speaker Kenya S. Ulmer. Kenya teaches women how to ditch the drama and distractions to get on the road to their destiny. Nothing bothers Kenya more than seeing women not understand their true worth in Jesus Christ. Her approach is aimed to get at the root of and unearth the deadly foundations that we create and live on. These foundations prevent us from living a more joyous and purpose-filled life. Kenya resides in Maryland with her daughter Sydneyqueen of the selfie. To learn more and connect with Kenya, visit her at 


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