It was spring 1996. My senior year of high school. I was eighteen. It was one very unexpected, sweet and yet complex call—to obedience.

The moment changed my life.

Because our time is limited and this twenty minutes was thick with detail of his presence, I will say this — it is THE moment in my life I base all things Jesus — and sadly, it took me fifteen years to come full circle in understanding the power and weight of…disobedience.

The highlighted verse was, “For you have been called to live in freedom, my brothers and sisters. But do not use your freedom to satisfy your sinful nature” Galatians 5:13.

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What didn’t I understand? In all His graciousness, God was calling me out BEFORE I had reached my pain threshold and before I landed in a world of disaster.

Obedience – as I let out a slight sigh.

To a certain degree, it’s a dreaded word for many of us.

A thorn in our side.

My biggest struggle since childhood.

A rebel at heart, the word creates a suffocation of sort. The type that feels like a plastic bag is tightly being wrapped around your chest.

I do, however, have a deep desire to stay in His will. But that, like many of us, has been cultivated through the journey of understanding my brokenness.

Why, friend, is this important to you?

It is only important if you struggle to give up the things you know He has called you to surrender. Perhaps better put, simply with the call to follow His commands, in this particular season of your life.

I’m beginning to understand a call to obedience is heavy regardless of our age and season. It can often feel like a freight train heading directly into our pride, especially when our appetite for adventure is moving in the wrong direction.

For years, in my world, on the other side of goodness, the grass was much greener.

For the life of me, in my small and limited expanse of existence, I could not see the value of giving up the savory taste of the world around me.

I can’t help but wonder if you might feel the same way?

On top of everything else we are called to do as single mothers, as Christian single mothers, we are additionally called to be obedient.

Obedience is not derived from good intentions. Obedience is doing what he is asking of us in each season.

This kind of understanding is only made known through leaning into his presence and walking close to him. It is unique to each of us, different for all, and yet the same in His word.

What is God calling you to let go of, step into or call forth? What is he wanting you to partner with him in that will allow for his sweet fruit to grow, his mighty hand to empower and his presence to rest on?

Father, bless the heart of the single mama who reads this. Bring her in close to you that she may be strengthened to carry out your perfect will.

’till next time,

Cassie RajewichCassie Rajewich is a life coach to single moms as well as a writer and speaker of the heart. She is the creator of Unconventional Motherhood: Helping Single Moms Master the Mess. After ten years of mastering her own mess of single motherhood, she ditched the security and comfort of the life she had built, upped and left her residence of Las Vegas and made the move to Southern California where she began a new adventure, blending a family. She now helps other women navigate the sometimes difficult journey of single motherhood through her grace filled approach that develops order and organization within the heart and home.


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