Why My Church Doesn’t Need a Single Moms Ministry

 

Exposing the heart of God in reference to single mothers has become my life’s passion – the fuel that wakes me in the morning. It has become an exciting journey that the Lord has me travelling, and I truly cannot wait to see the next step, where he leads next, who he sets free, and how he moves in the lives of single parents globally.

As I travel the country mobilizing churches on how to best meet the needs of single parents, inevitably I will run across a few pastors, leaders, volunteers, or church members who believe that their church does not need a single moms’ program. (Some even try to passionately convince me – to no avail). Years ago, I would become frustrated and even angry with such statements, but now, I welcome them as an opportunity to provide additional information and watch the Holy Spirit move on hearts – as he so often does.

Here are some of the top objections I receive (and my um……. kind, compassionate, sometimes humorous, responses):

Single moms’ ministries support unplanned pregnancy. Really? Does drug rehabilitation support drug and alcohol use? Does addictions’ ministry support pornography? Do divorce recovery programs support divorce?

There are no single moms in my church. Well, madam, that is problem number one. With 15 million single parents in our country (and most of them are unchurched), there are definitely single parents in your community. The fact that they aren’t already in your church leaves you with some wood to chop.

We already offer a divorce recovery class. Wonderful. We support divorce recovery programs. But what do the single mothers do AFTER they complete the class? Where do they go? What support group do they then attend? Also….what about all the single mothers out there who were never married?

We have a Singles’ Ministry. Isn’t that the same as a Single Moms’ Ministry? No. Singles’ Ministries (again, another program for which we support, as we know they add value to the church) in most churches is a co-ed program that caters to men and women who are in their 30s-50s. Consider the teen and 20-something single moms. They generally do not feel comfortable in the college and young professionals group. They are too young for the singles’ ministry. Additionally, I highly recommend a Single Moms’ Ministry be gender-exclusive to women only. Single mothers who have recently divorced or had an unplanned pregnancy suffer emotional brokenness and do not need the added pressure of a co-ed environment. They need to have a time with other mothers to simply share their journey and receive encouragement. (And before you single dads get upset with me, we love the single dads’ Bible studies and support groups, too! We just want you to have fellowship separately). Single Moms’ can always be part of the Singles’ Ministry at your church.

Jennifer Maggio is considered one of the nation’s leading authorities on single parent’s issues. She is founder of The Life of a Single Mom Ministries and Overwhelmed: The Single Moms Magazine. She has appeared on more than 100 radio and television programs, including Moody Radio, The 700 Club, Focus on the Family, Daystar, and many more.

6 Comments

  1. Sunday betty November 25, 2012 at 11:50 pm - Reply

    How do i get your book titled_the single mother and the church?

  2. sabrina carrero December 31, 2012 at 4:59 am - Reply

    Hello, I just want to thank you for your book and after going to a mission trip to help single moms God called me and I am leading a so single mother ministry.But unfortunately the church I attended did not help the single moms and rather chose religion over need.So I left and so did most of the single moms instead of helping us they put heavy burdens on us and didn’t lift anything. One of the single moms was screamed at cause she was moving on a Sunday. And I couldn’t help her because I had to be there.But yet the pastor didn’t help and she needed it. We have an amazing support Group but are now looking for another church. Is there any advice you might have. I know this is my calling I even quit my job for the mission trip and God gave my job back. Just need some advice on it. Thanks again.

  3. Aaron H. GAddis February 26, 2013 at 8:06 am - Reply

    I need your help! ASAP! I will pay money. LOL Seriously, I would love to corroborate with you on my Doctor of Ministry dissertation which is implementing a single parent program in a church that has over 49% single parents and when we add in the parents whose children and youth attend our church we minister to over 70% single parents of the total number of parents we serve. We are a predominantly African American congregation with over 4600 members.

    We accept the challenge of single parent ministry as a “New Frontier” in the mission work of the 21 century church.

    • Jennifer Maggio February 26, 2013 at 5:53 pm - Reply

      Thank you so much for contacting The Life of a Single Mom Ministries!

      We are always so honored to connect with those who desire to serve single mothers in their area. Jennifer Maggio, our founder, has such a heart to connect single moms to the Lord.

      We have found that most of the single parent resources on the market today (what few there are) are almost a decade old.

      We recommend The Church and the Single Moms Ministry Resource Kit first. It has helped more than 1200 churches with their single parents! It walks you through the initial stages of planning and preparing, then walks you through steps to put it into action, then it walks you through a comprehensive program on launching the ministry, keeping it going, success tools, and much more! It includes a 30-minute phone consultation! You will get 4 Church and Single Mom Books with it, too, so while you are reading, you can give 3 books out to leaders/volunteers and keep spreading them to help motivate potential volunteers. In addition, you will receive a teaching DVD, magazine, print materials, 2 CDS, and comprehensive workbook. It’s worth the money. We ask the church to purchase it as a very small investment into this vital ministry.

      For a detailed look at how to start a single moms ministry in your area, as well as steps on how to get started, how to sign up for our free newsletter, and more, please visit http://thelifeofasinglemom.com/?page_id=25 .

      Please let us know if we can further assist you. God bless.

  4. Lori from Houston March 1, 2013 at 10:11 pm - Reply

    It’s kind of upsetting, you know. As a single mother I’ve been looking for support through church, but I haven’t gotten very far. The church I’ve been attending had no other single parents. Of course, they wouldn’t start a single parents’ or single moms’ group. I’ve tried to approach the church about these ministries also about the Disability ministry, but their reply was there is no manpower. The members of the church have not included us in gatherings much, I haven’t liked their treatment. This kind of treatment makes me understand why they haven’t had single parents. I’m sure there are many other single moms who’ve had similar experience. It’s very disappointing!

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