Single Mothers, perhaps, is the most recognized form of non-traditional families, with only one parent typically a female. The demographic of a single mother has altered over decades and is no longer being identified only as “divorced” families or “unplanned” pregnancy, but delves even deeper, such as a single mother by choice, crisis situations, or foster parenting. Today in theU.S., around 13.7 million single parents in the United States, and 84% of them are mothers. (US Census).
As we are all aware, single mothers are not the topic in the community news, church bulletin, and employee lounge or in many cases right in your own family. We are considered not the “norm” for traditional families (two parents, 2.5 children, minivan and a dog.) We are not always invited into group discussions about planned family vacations, dinner plans, family gatherings, play dates and education. Non-Traditional Families doesn’t fit the typical cookie cutter pattern, but we have our own unique mold.
Non-Traditional Families deal with various media attacks on our children. We are constantly told that fatherless children will suffer from emotional, psychological and developmental problems that could lead them into a life of violence and destruction.
- 63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes (US Dept. Of Health/Census) – 5 times the average.
- 90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes – 32 times the average.
- 85% of all children who show behavior disorders come from fatherless homes – 20 times the average. (Center for Disease Control)
- 71% of all high school dropouts come from fatherless homes – 9 times the average. (National Principals Association Report)
As Non-Traditional Families, we have to get a handle on being a single mother and how it can affect our children, if GOD is missing in our homes. It is easy to believe the statistics, if we focus only on the circumstances that brought us to this place. We cannot allow our choices (or lack thereof), to dictate our children’s future. Let’s not create a pitfall with a broken ladder. Let’s create futures with a solid foundation built on the word of God.
Non-Traditional Families are uniquely designed with unique needs that are distinct to each household. We require unique services and resources, but we deserve the same opportunities, acceptance, appreciation and platforms that are given to traditional families. Welcome to my Non-Traditional Family lifestyle.