Emotional stability is important to managing the single mom life well. However, emotions can be unpredictable. Like the weather, our emotional state can go from sunny to stormy all in one day. Emotions can be hard to express and difficult to understand. Not only are you trying to manage your own emotions as a single mom, but you are aware of the emotions packed tightly into each of your children.
Hebrews 6:19 comforts us, “This hope we have as an anchor of the soul, a hope both sure and steadfast…” These are encouraging words that give security and stability. When you feel tossed about by the strong winds of emotions, breathe and rest in what is holding you steady – HOPE. This kind of hope is the only thing that will calm your soul regardless of how overpowering the storm is. This hope is the only hope that can withstand the earthquake of circumstances that will change the landscape of your life.
What is this hope? This hope is understanding that He never changes. Your Heavenly Father promises to “never leave you” (Hebrews 13:5). He can never un-see you. He is El-Roi, the God-Who-Sees-Me (Genesis 16:13). This hope is knowing you are the apple of His eye (Psalm 17:8).
This hope is resting in His omniscience. He is all knowing. He knows not only the emotions you feel and why you feel the way you do, but He also knows how to settle your soul. He knows you better than you know yourself (I John 3:20b). He knows what has happened in your past, and He knows your current situation. You don’t have to fret over the future because He already knows that, too.
This hope gives perspective that will lead you to your next steps. Because this hope is “sure and steadfast”, you can trust where it will lead you. “…When my heart is overwhelmed; lead me to the rock that is higher than I” (Psalm 61:2). You do not have to walk in fear because He has gone before you and He knows the path you take. “My steps have held fast to Your paths. My feet have not slipped” (Psalm 17:5).
This sure and steadfast hope births expectant faith, an immoveable faith. This assurance is the purpose of hope anchoring our soul, to be immoveable. Emotions, like the waves of the ocean, remind us to never underestimate their power. God, our anchor, is all-powerful and is more powerful than the emotions that can become unsteady. To be immoveable is the result of a faith that is anchored in hope, an expectant faith that thrives in complete security. “Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen” (Hebrews 11:1).
Whether your emotions are settled or in-the-midst of relentless storms, you are anchored with HOPE.
H – HE never changes
O- your OMNISCIENT Father will settle you
P – PERSPECTIVE that leads you to the Rock
E- EXPECTANT faith that is immoveable
Joy Anisa realized years ago that with a fabulous group of friends, a good pair of Spanx, a great cup of coffee, strong hair spray, and being deeply rooted in God’s Word the storms of life could be passed through. If only life could be made of such simple ingredients… While fabulous friends are a treasure of life, being rooted in God’s Word is THE necessity to weathering the storms. All the other things in life usually just help us feel good about ourselves.
Joy would have never dreamed that her life would be filled with such incredible sadness that comes with loss. She never would have imagined that she would experience the personal effects of emotional and mental abuse, the silent killer of the soul. She is in awe of how God is the keeper of her soul and He has kept what she committed to Him. He would not allow her soul to be destroyed!
Joy Anisa is married to Jeff, a bi-vocational pastor and they live in Conyers, GA. Their oldest daughter, Meighan, is serving for a year with the London City Mission in London, England. Their son, Caid, is a sophomore at Eagles Landing Christian Academy and plays football. A graduate of She Speaks with Proverbs 31 Ministries, Joy’s story will inspire, encourage, and bring laughter through the tears.
The Life of a Single Mom is a global nonprofit committed to seeing no single mom walk alone. Having served more than 71,000 single mothers each year, the goal of the organization is establish support groups for single mothers in communities around the world. To date, we have worked with more than 1,500 churches & community groups to start or improve a single mom’s group. Our programs focus on empowering single moms to grow spiritually, emotionally, physically, financially, and parentally. For more information, visit www.thelifeofasinglemom.com